Bondage and Fetish Toys:

An Overview

Bondage and fetish toys are an excellent way in which to add spice to your sexual experiences and experiment with different methods of arousal. However, whilst indulging in bondage and other fetish activities which involve the use of bodily restraint or submission, it is of fundamental importance to ensure that you share your experience in a safe and familiar environment with a partner or persons you know and trust.Some people find is useful to have a ‘safe word’ which can be said if one of you wishes to opt-out of a session, perhaps due to anxiety or pain. The ‘safe word’ can be agreed upon prior to your bondage session, and should be something instantly recognisable and totally unconnected to the usual language involved in sex; perhaps a colour or animal. It may be tempting to rely upon a good old-fashioned ‘No!’ or ‘Stop!’ but in fact many couples actually enjoy the thrill of hearing their partner use those words in sado-masochistic activities as it adds to the overall excitement and effect. It is also essential to educate yourself as to any possible health-related risks, as many activities involve blood-flow restriction. Keep sessions to less than two hours at a time and if in any doubt, consult your general practitioner.

When partaking in bondage, one person will typically assume a dominant role over their submissive partner. Often sex games of this nature involve the meting out of ‘punishment’ upon the ‘sub’, and therefore encourages the couple to (a) become more vocal during sex; and (b) play out individual or shared fantasies. Not all bondage and fetish games involve intercourse, and indeed, can be an end in themselves rather than merely part of foreplay. There are no set rules; the wilder the imagination, the more interesting and rewarding your session will be.

Like most niche leisure activities, there are certain tools of the trade which will increase your pleasure and the general eroticism of your session. Bondage toys which immobilise or restrain various parts of the body are very popular and can be easily found in good online stores. Beginners may wish to start with something simple, such as a blindfold or handcuffs, and couples are recommended to try bondage kits specifically designed for first-time participants. When using hand cuffs or ankle ligatures, ensure that circulation is not cut off and be aware that metal accessories may sometimes damage skin if secured too tightly--any unintentional discomfort will limit your overall enjoyment and actual injury should be avoided.

Movement may also be restricted by using ropes, which are extremely effective for tight bondage, and silk varieties are a safe option as they reduce the likelihood of friction burns to the skin. Rope can be used to tie a lover to the bed or bind hands or feet, but should not be placed around the neck as there is danger of asphyxiation. Another option is bondage tape, which is a good starting ground for beginners as, unlike rope, it cannot become tighter if the bound person shows resistance and struggles.

So once you have restrained or immobilised your lover, what next? Some people like to physically chastise their partner once they are in a dominant position. This could be as simple as a hand slap to the buttocks, but fun can be had by employing items designed for this very purpose. Typical products available include whips, cat-o-nine-tails, riding crops or paddles, all of which come in a variety of materials and textures.  You may wish to introduce new forms of erotic skin-sensations, such as hot candle-wax or ice cubes on your lover. Whilst not ‘painful’, the tingling feeling caused by the sudden contact with skin during arousal can create an added dimension to your play and have your partner literally writhing with every touch (avoid ultra-sensitive parts of the body such as the face, nipples or clitoris/penis unless your partner makes a specific request). When using candle-wax, steer clear of extreme temperatures which could result in minor burns. Dip your finger in the melted wax and dab it onto desired area, or pour wax from a height so it can cool slightly before it hits the skin. Massage candles are recommended for beginners as they are intended for use on the body and contain ingredients which will nourish the skin. You may also wish to try a lubricant which tingles upon contact with the genital area, as such products are perfect for increasing sensitivity and chances of orgasm through intercourse.

Experienced bondage participants may be prepared to spend a little extra on equipment; cages can be used to keep your partner captive, but may be a step too far for a beginner, or impractical given the amount of space required. If you are fortunate to have enough space, a swing (attached to a door frame or ceiling beam) is a fun choice for those sufficiently daring and looking for that extra adrenaline-rush. Adjustable, and able to accommodate a variety of sexual positions, this product has soared in popularity after it was featured in an episode of Sex and the City. Other articles of bondage machinery commonly used in the fetishist community, all of which are available for inspection and purchase online, include specially-adapted PVC chairs or beds which can be easily cleaned and stored discreetly after use.

Finally, think about fetish outfits or bodily adornments which could enhance your session and allow you to effortlessly slip into your chosen persona. As mentioned already, bondage often involves role-play and the adoption of a ‘character’. Our website boasts a huge line of sexy outfits and costumes which will help transform you or your partner and create a sensationally erotic atmosphere in which to play out your fantasies. When you are ready to move your dressing-up onto a new level, Muzzles or ball-gags can be placed on a willing participant, allowing a partner to take control of when their lover is able to speak (instead of a ‘safe word’ devise a simple, but effective hand gesture to alert your partner should you need to stop the session). You may want to pay attention to the nipple area by trying nipple-clamps (some of which have a vibrating function included), which greatly increase sensitivity by restricting blood-flow to the nipple through applying varying levels of pressure.

 

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