Spanking and Whipping

A Beginner's Guide

Sex and sexual life has changed a lot since the past few decades. We as human beings have begun to be more tolerant and several activities that would be considered prudish or outlandish just a decade ago are today part and parcel of daily sex lives. For example, homosexuality was and still is considered illegal in some parts of the world – but there can no denying that the LGBT inclined people are finding more acceptance in the mainstream world. LGBT is just one such lifestyle, which we call the alternate lifestyle. There are several alternate lifestyles that come under sex life. One such lifestyle – possibly the most controversial and debatable – is BDSM, an acronym for bondage, dominance and sadomasochism.

So niche is this lifestyle that even the acronym is not something that has universal acceptance. Some consider it to be bondage, dominance, slavery and mastery, while others consider it bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism and there is of course a vast difference between sadism and masochism and sadomasochism.  While BDSM in its very pure form may not be everyone’s cup of tea, it cannot be denied that even the primmest and proper of sexual beings do hold an interest in some sadomasochism activities, like whipping and spanking. Here is a simple beginner’s guide to spanking and whipping.

How Long and How Hard?

This is basically the first question that a couple would ask when they want to indulge in spanking. Actually speaking, spanking is something like favorite attire that fits you just right – there is no one size fits all. However, the couple can decide when to begin and when to stop if they can gauge the emotional aspect within each other. Also, how long and how hard should also depend on whether the couple is indulging in spanking or the first time, or whether they have had some experience in spanking.

How to Spank?

Begin with some shots that are soft but form. The ass cheeks are quite sensitive, and there are many nerve endings that can send shoots of pleasure in the person if rendered some good love taps. Remember that the intensity of the spanks should be in line with the experience of the person. 

Keep in mind that this is a consensual activity, and it would be bad to give her the pain and you the pleasure. Therefore, try to add some soft and pleasurable massages and gropes as the spanking continues and increases.  This will help in decreasing the pain factor and also add to the pleasure.

Once the couple has become accustomed to spanking and their pain tolerance levels have increased, they can look at the paddles. There are various kinds of paddles that can be used to administer spanking.

Explore the Body:

Spanking as foreplay is excellent for the couple. It helps the couple bond also makes both of them aware of each other’s body. Use the spanking activity to find more about your sexual partner’s body. Also, understand that too many blows on the same spot are not pleasurable for the giver of blows as well as the taker of the said blows. The giver may see a red mark that might make them balk at the prospect of continuing, and the taker of blows may literally begin crying in pain.

These are the three most important tips that you should keep in mind when it comes to a guide about spanking. While spanking is something that even common couples may indulge in the privacy of their bedroom, it is whipping that is actually an entirely different ball game and is more risky as compared to spanking. Here are some tips to keep in mind:

Always the Safe Word:

Remember that spanking and whipping is a consensual activity, and if you even go a little bit out of hand, it may have some very bad mental as well as physical consequences on both individuals. This is where the safe word comes in mind. Whipping, spanking, flogging, etc will have several scenarios where a person might not be able to communicate at all – except for a single world or some kind of symbol. Make sure that you have safe word before you indulge in whipping or spanking.

 

Make the Blows Light:

Whipping is very different from spanking.  While spanking is just you and your palm and the spanking surface, whipping is much more risky because it has an external accessory – a whip – which if used wrong can grossly damage the flesh and even psyche – even permanently. Therefore, make sure you take the person through a light learning curve.

What kind of Whip?

There are several kinds of whips that can be used to carry out the whipping. Most common is the single tail, which basically looks like a tail and the pronged whip, which basically looks like three prongs from the handle of the whip. To ensure a greater amount of pain, some whips have metal or plastic or other substances added onto the whip tail.  To ensure more pain, some whip tails are knotted. Of course, you would have to be careful about the type and amount of pain that you would wish to give to your partner. One can also use the Cube Tipped Crop, which is basically a cane type device.  A huge range of other Whips & Floggers are available at 30 Kisses Adult Shop. Be sure to browse this incredible range and you will be sure to find something that satisfies your desires.

Stay Away from the Sensitive Areas:

While whipping, you should ensure that the whip falls away from the sensitive areas like the face, the genitals etc. Yes, genital whipping is also a kind of kink play, but that is better left to the experienced whippers. Beginners can look for the meatier areas, like the thighs, the lower legs, of course the butt cheeks and even the stomach. A bad whipping can result in external as well as internal damages.  Also, if you concentrate on the same bodily area, the area might get badly damaged.

Remember that whipping is as much of a mental exercise as it is a physical exercise. The whipping not only had a physical effect, but may also affect the psyche of the person. Therefore, you should be careful and gauge the effect of the whipping on the person, before you go ahead with the whipping or spanking.

This is a basic guide to spanking and whipping, for all those who wish to begin their journey into the world of BDSM, or even just want to add some spice to their sex lives.